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https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jan/16/escape-overthinking-trap-stop-juding-yourself How to escape the overthinking trap: stop judging yourself Before Christmas I took a young relative to a jazz concert. The thought of it ruined his whole day. He scuffed around the house like an alt-right voter at a refugee camp. In the event, even he acknowledged that we had a fine time. But neither of us would ever get back the dreadful hours that preceded it. He’d fallen prey to a cardinal paradox – poisoning the present by agonising over a future hardship that never materialised. So I'm thinking that the lesson here might NOT be to stop judging yourself and if anything DO judge yourself, as in, hey, I just assumed that I was going to hate this shit, maybe next time I should withhold judgement until after the fact, when I have something to actually bounce it up against besides my own personal ignorance. Maybe I am a dumbass about shit that I know absolutely nothing about, ya' think? I guess that's too harsh or something. No matter - jazz blamed for an ignuntass kid's emoness. Not the kid, jazz. Not saying the kid was/is wrong in principle, I mean, I don't know what concert they went to. But hey - jazz terrorizes emo-kids into a whirlyfrenzy. Blame jazz for that, or thank it? Hmmmmmmmm.....