Man is boss and should remain so

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Man is boss and should remain so

Publication date: Thursday, 20th April, 2006

THE WRITER: Hillary Bainemigisha

By Hilary Bainemigisha

Throughout animal kind, the male is the boss and there are no term limits. Called upon by God to lead the others, he has to make the first move, prove himself capable, own the family offspring, protect the affair from the Ngarambes of this world and generally make sure that Ngayiza is not so starved as to be forced to raid a neighbouring country for timber.

This, I must say, is not a piece of cake only that, as our president will tell you, man has no choice. It would be a mistake for him to ignore God’s call to lead in relationships.

Yet, today, the dating procedure forces man to put off his crown in attempts to acquire the most acceptable mask for the most right woman. This involves such demeaning actions like acting personal aide, bodyguard and funder for the woman he wants.

Many play saint and slave, lick female boots and generally sacrifice principles — ask politicians about looking for votes. Apart from visiting the electorate as often – with flowers, calling daily, buying stuff, waiting by as she concludes her salon, driving from Busega to pick her from Gaba during jam peak hours and dressing differently because women don’t forget when you put on what, you have to put up with her moods, nagging, demands and be armed with convenient lies (which you must keep remembering).

Does this sound like the man is boss? I have seen men holding women’s bags as they walk the streets. The other day, Pat could not watch his team humble Arsenal with us because the girl he is eyeing stopped him. And one cashier – yes, cashier who must be earning sh200,000 a month, asked me to buy her a car! We are being whipped left, right and centre! By the time a man walks down the aisle with a beautiful woman, he has swam shark-infested oceans! I wonder what our fellow animals are thinking of the human species!

That is how some men begin their marriages: Humbled and beseeching – those are two goals down. As soon as the marriage kicks off, the process of reclaiming the driver’s seat begins and most women seem to be unaware of this. Poor female souls, used to the meek suitor who called three times a day, don’t understand the sudden changes. The guy starts rationing his romantic words, giving priority to business, soccer and friends, forgetting all your small anniversaries he used to fund religiously and ignoring your whimpering disappointments. He tells you he still admires equality, but in as far as it is spelt correctly on paper. For in his home, he usurps 51% voting powers.

Sadly, the level a man sank to make himself accepted to you amidst thousands of suitors, is the height to which he will go and actually make his baseline to recover his leadership. It is called manhood in the male ego lingo.

The trick is not to petition court or threaten tsunamis ‘if he comes late this time’ because while the judges will recognise the anomalies, none will sanction any re-voting. Just understand that he wants to feel like the king of his castle.

Because he controls all the armed forces, play his game if you want peace. A clever woman will just sing his praises while looking for how else to manoeuvre back to the most adorable position without threatening his ego. As long as this does not include witchcraft, Ngarambe or rebel movements, it is acceptable in marriage politics. Just don’t use bedroom loadshedding to prove a point because there are vultures ready to reap where they did not sow.

As for the men, feel free to enjoy your number one status because only one person can lead at a time. And, according to God Almighty, in relationships with women, men should not be followers. If an affair is a car, the driver’s seat is the only place for a man to be.

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[Alexander]

Well, you can see what his problem is right away: He's clearly unbalanced by being named Hilary...

[alocispepraluger102]

Well, you can see what his problem is right away: He's clearly unbalanced by being named Hilary...

a hillary-hillary debate whould be interesting if moderated by that iconic saxophonist sir william clinton.

[Jazzmoose]

I'll give a detailed opinion of this article as soon as Barb informs me as to what my opinion is...