The D I V O R C E Thread

[Quincy]

Just lurked in this thread throughout, but glad to see some of that optimism shine through. Keep hanging in there, and yes, thank heavens for music!

[connoisseur series500]

Paul, I know from our talks that you are making progress. Advancement comes in waves. You're just on a temporary low. Things will pick up.

[Rob C]

Since I posted earlier in the thread, thought I'd drop in again to say my divorce was final on Monday. Very anticlimactic! But we'd been separated for over a year, and I'd hired my lawyer to start the process back in February or March. So it's been a long time coming. But the court hearing, the final thing, was a rubber stamp. I was sworn in, answered "yes" to a few questions from my lawyer, affirmed that our settlement agreement was correct and we'd both agreed to it, and the judge granted the divorce. The end. I thought it was going to feel much bigger than it did.

(I was amused by the woman who went before me at the court call. She had the BIGGEST GRIN I've ever seen on anyone's face throughout her testimony. A woman ready to move on, apparently!)

[sheldonm]

Since I posted earlier in the thread, thought I'd drop in again to say my divorce was final on Monday. Very anticlimactic! But we'd been separated for over a year, and I'd hired my lawyer to start the process back in February or March. So it's been a long time coming. But the court hearing, the final thing, was a rubber stamp. I was sworn in, answered "yes" to a few questions from my lawyer, affirmed that our settlement agreement was correct and we'd both agreed to it, and the judge granted the divorce. The end. I thought it was going to feel much bigger than it did.

(I was amused by the woman who went before me at the court call. She had the BIGGEST GRIN I've ever seen on anyone's face throughout her testimony. A woman ready to move on, apparently!)

I take it she wasn't your now ex-wife???

[chris olivarez]

I really think that it helps to have common interests-not that it guarantees that you'll go the distance but I think that it improves the chances. For me it was well after the fact that I realized that my ex and I had zilch in common. I was bagged and tagged the moment I said "I do". I totally agree with making time for one another . It's just too damned easy to get caught up in whatever you're doing and even easier to drift apart.

Also,like many others have said here keep the lines open-talk to one another. Before my ex said she wanted a divorce she put me through a fair amount of bullshit. If she would have just come right out and said "I want a divorce" we both would have been spared a lot of pain. She divorced me three weeks before Christmas-it took a long time for me to start enjoying the holiday again. At the time I coped with this by constantly sleeping. Just in case I'm coming off like I'm putting this all on her I really don't mean to I bear as much if not more responsibility for the marriage's failure as she did. If I ever get married again I'll do a lot of things different and I'll work like hell to get it right.

[chewy-chew-chew-bean-benitez]

Chewy's divorce tip of the day: make her watch NIGHT OF THE IGUANA

[BERIGAN]

Chewy's divorce tip of the day: make her watch NIGHT OF THE IGUANA

Watching it will guarantee a divorce?

[Epithet]

Chewy's divorce tip of the day: make her watch NIGHT OF THE IGUANA

Watching it will guarantee a divorce?

Yes, when you ask which of Gardner and the blonde nympho is hotter.