Again, I'll grant you that men over the years have used this as the ultimate tool for abuse. Hard not to see why.
But these evil men leave out the single most-important part of this passage, the last line:
The man is only allowed this kind of respect if he deserves it, and the only way he deserves it is by honoring his wife. You don’t honor your wife by treating her as a slave, a maid, a sex toy, etc. You honor her by treating her as a human being, as one worthy of only the highest love, honor, and praise. I have a hard time believing, even in the culture in which this was written, that Peter was issuing a free pass for men to beat their wives into submission.
Again, I wish I could see the letters Peter was responding to.
(EDITED cuz I didn't wanna leave the whole quote in there, conserve space & all that)