Breaking up is hard to do or The meaning of the blues

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Hi all,
Although I hope most of you are very much in love with someone at the moment. I'm sure I'm not the only one that did look/has been looking for comfort in music when a relationship did not turn out the way expected. Please share your favourite "break up" song or songs, that helped you through this heart ache at some point in your life and, when you're comfortable with telling,  the story of the love that goes with . The music can be from any genre as long it was the music that sucked you into the gloom or got you back to life or anything in between, whatever is appropriate to your story.

Ok, well, I guess it is fair that I'll go and share first.
Here's a song that made me cry but also helped me. Here's a personal story:

The guy that belongs with this song used to be my best friend. I met him in my teens and we got on from the moment we met. It was strange, I was really young but this guy who was somewhat older than me really seemed to have a mutual soul. We just connected. I trusted him with every thing, he would never think anything was odd. He was really open minded and because I was not really an ordinary girl and felt I didn't fit in with my peers at times, maybe since I had experienced other things in life already they hadn't yet. Not sure, but I did feel different. He was my best friend for years and he tried to educate me musically. Tom Waits came from that, so this music is connected to my friend.
Our lives went on and about 1,5 decade later on a late night he confessed to me he had fallen in love with me the moment we met. I didn't know. He hadn't told me since I was so young and he didn't want to lay it on me. He just wanted me to be happy and when he could contribute to that in any way that was enough for him. I guess I was not surprised since I always had felt he loved me and frankly I did  love him too, so I told him that. He was really happy, but we never got to be a couple since well, there were two lives and other people involved at that time who would get hurt. So we decided to just stay friends and we still are, only he's not really my best friend anymore. I guess this did influence us after all. Neither of us wanted to be selfish and pursue this love when it would mean we'd have to hurt people. It just wasn't an option. Maybe now I'd just have wanted he wouldn't have told me, so we'd still be best friends. I miss that.

Hope you'll share your song with or withhout story. Thanks. Kind regards, page

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[jeffcrom]

Shirley Horn's version of "You Won't Forget Me" with Miles Davis on trumpet.

John Lee Hooker's version of "We'll Meet Again."

No stories from me, but many years ago I wrote a ballad (instrumental) for The One That Got Away. I'm finally going to record it in about three weeks, with Bob Stagner and Evan Lipson.

[ghost of miles]

Beck's Morning Phase.

[duaneiac]

 

"If you ever wish for things that are  only in the past

Just remember that the wrong things aren't supposed to last.

Baby it's over and done,

The rest is gonna come when you let it . . ."

[Quasimado]

"Some Other Time" - Blossom Dearie.

Overlooked, but a remarkable vocalist/ pianist. The little-girl voice belies a very world-wise lady who moved in Birth of the Cool circle with Annie Ross, Gil Evans, Miles Davis etc. and who made "Moody's Mood for Love " with King Pleasure around 1952. Her piano accompaniment is something special. Q

 

[The Magnificent Goldberg]

Interesting thread. I'll have to think about it, because, from way back, there were quite a few

MG

[Cyril]

You mean 'tear jerking songs' like they do in DWDD?  Don't know where to start (like MG).

[Hardbopjazz]

As Jimmy Rushing sang, "I love my baby, but my baby don't love me."

[The Magnificent Goldberg]

No, but I've got a lot of past

And actually, the one I've picked isn't a tear jerker at all.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5b0MJzXEo6s

Fats Domino - I'm in love again.

I heard this early in 1956, around the time it came out; I was 12. It was the first Rock n Roll I'd ever heard and, as music it made a big impact on me. I didn't reckon Elvis Presley nearly as much as everyone else, when I head him, because Fats just HAD something.

I fell in love in 1957. She was the best friend of the girl downstairs of my stepfather's stepfather, and I went there for the summer holidays. Whoo! And yeah, it hurt when, on the next holiday, she wouldn't see me. But I thought about Fats' song and realised that, because I went to a boys only school, I knew very few girls of my own age: a few of my mates had sisters; I knew a few from the Judean club; and those two in Sussex. So I got it that, as I got to know more girls, I'd almost certainly fall in love again. And, of course, that's what happened; what happens to ALL of us, as time passes, unless we're misanthropists. And personally, I think it's great. I've never fallen OUT of love with any of them. (I've probably got good taste ) Well, why should I? Who loses if I'm still in love with a lot of ladies in my past? Certainly not my wife (and we've been together 44 years).

Would I have realised this if I didn't know and love that Fats Domino song? Well, eventually, I guess. But the song was there and that's what happened.

MG

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11 hours ago, jeffcrom said:

Shirley Horn's version of "You Won't Forget Me" with Miles Davis on trumpet.

John Lee Hooker's version of "We'll Meet Again."

No stories from me, but many years ago I wrote a ballad (instrumental) for The One That Got Away. I'm finally going to record it in about three weeks, with Bob Stagner and Evan Lipson.

Hi Jeff,
thanks for your reply. Great that you are recording your song. I did write lyrics about my friend when I did a vocalese job for my friend Jay. He had written a song about his wife with a title that reminded me of my friend. The song is about how I had experienced our friendship or how I used to see him really. I haven't recorded it but maybe Jay will use it with another singer some day. He's the one I have mentioned in Atlanta when you told about the gigs you arranged at that place you organized for; do you remember I did ask about that? I did tell him about your venue, but he couldn't get his band together at that point.
Not too long ago I did compose a song about a lost love. While composing and writing lyrics I did cry every time I worked on it, but that way it did help me to handle the situation and now I can sing it without crying. Music as medication so to speak. So in a way composing this was a way for me to deal with the break up. I still need to do harmonies for this one, so there's work to be done on it.  Emotionally I'm not ready to perform it to be honest and I did write it just to express myself in the first place, but it is a good song so who knows. I love your title btw!
 

[Hardbopjazz]

I would rather draw from within and write my own tune to bring back from the depths of despair; and there has to be some humor in the song. It's sort of therapy.

https://soundcloud.com/tags/track%208%20from%20%22hole%20in%20the%20ozone.%22

 

 

 

 

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Thanks all for the replies and songs. Indeed it doesn't have to be a tear jerker, but like I've described a song that helped you or you've listened to a lot when it had happened since it was how you felt at the time or something similar.

Great story M.G. Yes, I agree about past loves. For me it is like this: once I grow to love someone, that stays with me usually. Unless he would have done something really terrible like hit me or something. I wouldn't say I was still in love with a past love, but yes I do still love them in a way and like I've told about my best friend, we still see each other and are friends. Not that that is always easy, especially not at first when you've just broken up.

Yes Tom, like therapy. Exactly! Is that you singing/playing? Great!

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[jlhoots]

Sonny Rollins version of You Don't Know What Love Is on Saxophone Colossus.

[Teasing the Korean]

The four classic Sinatra heartbreak albums on Capitol:

Wee Small Hours

Where Are You?

Only the Lonely

No One Cares.

[Hardbopjazz]

Frank Sinatra singing "One For My Baby" and "Angel Eyes." Both are gut wrenching heart broken songs. 

[jazztrain]

I'll Never Be The Same.

Just Friends.

[The Magnificent Goldberg]

Which version of 'Just friends'?

Most versions I've heard of the song have been burners - it IS a good number for a burn up.

Only Etta Jones, with strings, Joe Wilder and a nice sax section, arranged by Oliver Nelson, really gets that song defined, as far as I know.

MG

[Cyril]

Why not without singing? I like  Dexter's and/or Trane's version.

[The Magnificent Goldberg]

I don't have the Cecil Taylor album with Trane or the two Steeplechase albums by Dex. I just can't be asked to listen to Dex with those too-boppy rhythm sections.

Any other non-burning instrumental versions you know of?

That's not to say I don't like it as a burner; it's great played that way, just inappropriate for the words. So, in the end, I think that might qualify it for being a bad song

But Etta's version... Phew!

MG

[Cyril]

No Dexter?

Almost everyone is playing or singing this song. You can try Houston Person.   I don't like Etts's version of this song, too much strings for me...... Il like Etta's  'All Of Me' from the Etta Jones sings 'Sings Lady Day' CD better. With Richard Wyands on piano.

[soulpope]

John Hiatt "Feels Like Rain "

 

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Aw, John Hiatt! Thanks for this one soulpope. I have memories to his music as well. Fabulous song this is!

Anyone with a stories in remembrance to a certain song? And/or when possible exactly what version and why? It can be instrumental as well as vocal.

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[MomsMobley]

BLIND BLAKE

 

PORTER WAGONER

 

 

LIGHTNIN' HOPKINS

 

 

[The Magnificent Goldberg]

On ‎23‎/‎02‎/‎2016 at 0:37 PM, Cyril said:

No Dexter?

Almost everyone is playing or singing this song. You can try Houston Person.   I don't like Etts's version of this song, too much strings for me...... Il like Etta's  'All Of Me' from the Etta Jones sings 'Sings Lady Day' CD better. With Richard Wyands on piano.

I've got lots of Dex, but no Steeplechase material. I've only ever bought two Steeplechase albums - Red Holloway and Teddy Edwards - because, seemed to me, the owners were too much bebop/hard bop fans for my taste.

I've got a good many versions of 'Just friends', but only one vocal version. I do have Houston Person's version, with Buddy Tate and Nat Simkins. Not a burner, of course, but quite a sprightly, medium up approach. Nothing like Etta's. Do you know any other vocal versions?

MG

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Cyril]

6 hours ago, The Magnificent Goldberg said:

Do you know any other vocal versions?

MG

 

 Almost everyone is playing or singing this this song. See your Lord 'Jazz Discography'  And the best jazz is bebop, hard bop and avant garde (for me).