I heard some commentator say the other day in regard to some comment that "it doesn't matter in what spirit an action was undertaken", to which I promptly called a loud BULLSHIT, because then, ok then, you're telling me that you don't have any interest in resolving a misunderstanding by deepening a mutual understanding, you just don't want to deal with any of it, and shut up anybody who says something you don't like, so fuck that, and oh, why are you so touchy about it, huh, maybe you're trying to stifle confronting your own insecuriites and supressed hostilities. That's what I told her.
And then I noticed she had a ponytail, so I smiled warmly, took another sip of the Chardonnay, apologized for ever having dared to have a point of view of my own, and went back to my James Taylor MP3s.