I can totally relate. My musical relationship with my dad kinda flowed the other way, he liked calm music, I liked energy. He didn't really like "jazz" as I knew it But he did take me to see Basie when I was 15!
Anyway, the older I got, the more I would have him asking me to make tapes of that "smooth" stuff, which meant a lot of Ben, Turrentine, the proverbial "ballads and blues". He loved Blue Hour.
It was really meaningful to find that coming ground in his last years. A lot of times, common ground is never found. I feel blessed that we did