Y'all need to work on your time. That shit's all over the place.
A not uncommon issue at age 16, I hasten to add, lest you think I'm just being an asshole. I'm just saying, in order to swing, there must be an acceptance of where the pulse (which is not the same as "the beat") is, not a quest to find it. That's a function of both confidence and awareness, so be aware, be humble, but know it when you get it.
It's a lot like making love. Hell, it is like making love. The more you know, the more you grow. The more you live, the more you grow. The more you grow, the more confident you get, and the more confident you get, the more fun you can have doing instead of trying to do.
So hang in there, don't half-ass, and maybe play some tunes that, uh....make you wanna cop a feel instead of gaze admiringly.