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I love Kashmere! Wait, what's that red dot?

Nice hang tonight. Some of y'all should come by sometime! Very friendly environment.

So why the hell don't you come hang in the chatroom, dog?

Ever notice that (on all Miles' versions) the horns play the "So What" riff three times, and only the rhythm section plays it the fourth time? Seems like anytime I hear a group play that tune they always play the riff every time. Not really a dealbreaker, just an observation. Sorry I blew up.

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Hope you have a great day today and everyday! Happy Birthday!

Working the Bach cello suites up on trombone was some of the most beneficial practicing I've ever done. Technique, key study, sequence- it's all there. Bach was the original bebopper!

Thanks for posting, Ed. I'm happy for you and encouraged by your optimism and success. As for me, I think I'm in the midst of the darkness several have mentioned, but I'm sure there will be better days. And bitter days as well. It will be a while before I can even think about finding someone. I think I need to do a little work on myself first. Today was an interesting day: 1) Went to the dentist after a long avoidance. Verdict: Root canal in my immediate future. Yipee. I will be requesting maximum drugs for that whole deal. 2) Talked to my wife- remember, she's in Santa Fe (as she is every summer) doing a gig (I started a SF thread a while back- seems like a hundred years ago now). No hostility, got some clarification on several issues. It's still hard to talk without getting emotionally overwhelmed. ..and finally... 3) Went to the gym for my session with my trainer. Felt like shit. I've been out of town and haven't been working out as much as I should (been drinking quite a bit as well). Turns out I've gained several pounds. Yee-ha! So, all in all a crazy day, but I don't feel all that bad about it. I was very emotional all day- things are percolatin' right at the surface, not at all how I usually function. Got some things in focus, I know what I need to do about other things. Trying like a MF to move forward. Plus I got a prescription for some Valium (to be used previous to the root canal appointment. Hope there's some left by then ). I'm also looking for an apartment, I don't know if I'll be able to afford a place big enough to put all my CDs. For that problem I blame the board. Sorry about blogging a bit. I'm starting to sound like the "pianoman" over at JC. :rsmile: I second what Ed said- it is comforting to hear from others going through similar situations. I wish everyone the best. I'm glad I started this thread- it is helping, and for that I say "thank you". Paul

Yes.

Thanks for sharing that Marcus. Right now I feel a definite lack of trust in general. I'm wary of trusting people, situations, even my own feelings. I'm assuming that the passage of time will help with this. This lack of trust is magnified by a recent (5 years ago) situation regarding the passing of my father. I won't go into that right now, but there were events that really shook me up and made me skeptical about trusting people. I've barely been able to start processing that and now this- needless to say there's a lot going on in my head right now. Thanks again for your support and input, Marcus, and I wish you the best in dealing with your situation. Your english is excellent, by the way. This last sentence says a lot!

Hope both of you guys are having a great day! Would like to hear from both of you more often!

I would do that in a heartbeat, catesta, but the fact is she will be able to care for the dog better than I. My freelance-musician lifestyle demands that I do a lot a travelling, sometimes away for a week or so, and I'd rather not have to put him in a kennel. The only way I could have a dog was to have someone else with whom to share the care. My wife travels much less and I think he'd be happier in the long run. She is going to take over the house (refinance and buy me out) and it has a great yard for the dog. This is his home. I'm hoping to get to (on occasion) visit him and take him to the park as long as I'm in town. It's a drag because that dog and I are very tight, but I want to do what's best for him.

OK, if I was going to do this here's what I want (with matching ottoman) About $1,000 for the set. Probably not in the immediate future though.

Maybe I should just go ahead and get that Jazz Crusaders set.

No kids, thankfully. But I'm really going to miss the dog. A lot.

There was a chart in the Woody Herman book called "Greasy Sack Blues", and the title wasn't referring to fast food, even though that's how Woody would introduce it.

I totally agree, Patricia. Trust is the cornerstone in all relationships, whether they be marriages or friendships. I know that I never could have cheated on my wife, and I'm confident that she felt the same way. It's not worth the guilt and hurt; it takes a long time to establish trust and hardly any time to lose it. The trust I lost was trust in the strength of the relationship. Even if she called me today and said that she changed her mind, I don't think we could go back to where we were. I mean, this could happen again in a month or a year or five years. I couldn't live with that uncertainty. I think we've reached the end and that makes me very sad, but I must accept it. Thanks for the vote of confidence. I look forward to getting beyond this. I think once I get my own place and start working towards re-establishing my independence things may look brighter. You know, we did an interesting thing when we were working with the therapist. We did this personality profile called an Enneagram. I tend to be very skeptical about this type of thing, but this seemed to supply us with a lot of answers. You answer some questions which then put you in one of nine general groups. If anyone here has done this, I'd like to hear how you felt about it. I was surprised at my results, but it made sense as I read more about my type.

The link itself didn't work for me either, Noj, but if you click on the space between "Weird" and Emma" it takes you to a site where you can access everything.

Doesn't it state in your thread title that "rants" are welcome? Of course! I was thinking rants about the frustration, pain and processing of one's own situation. Not aiming that energy towards anyone here.

I guess I'm saying this thread is here to heal wounds and not inflict them.

Friends, This thread is about a very sensitive and emotional topic, and I know that it cuts deep with many people. I hope we can keep it civil and not get judgemental- I wouldn't presume to make value judgements on people that I only know on an internet board. I greatly appreciate the sharing that has taken place thus far and I hope this doesn't degenerate into name-calling and such. I think we're all better than that here at Organissimo. That's why I decided to start the thread in the first place! Thanks, and peace everyone! Paul

Joel, I put that link in there so you might check out some previous comments about the side. I just wanted to let you know that many here agree that it is indeed great. No implied message or scolding, just trying to help. Sorry if it didn't come across that way.

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