Well Marty. . . it seems you didn't see the first one, and you don't seem to be a connoisseur of the Marvel Comics world. . . . This movie built upon the first one and was perhaps one of the best examples in cinema so far of the Marvel Comics world and attitude and philosophy.
Anyway, the pizza thing. . . who knows. . . I'm not in NYC, I don't order pizza delivery, it's beyond me, it was entertaining, especially him coming out of the broom closet, and the receptionist not even wondering how or why!
The Aunt May thing. . .well Aunt May is an established character who is a dual strong/weak person in the comic history and they are showing that pretty well in the films. . . . It's just how Aunt May IS, though she's more so in this movie possibly. It's character. . . it's poetic license, it's what storytelling is about. I I found it less hard to swallow than Zeta Jones reading books about Napolean, or that visa stamper being a serious Trekkie in The Terminal. But then I have a sense of Aunt May from reading Spiderman from 1963 to 1973 or so. . . .
Spidey tried really early to make bread with his powers, and as a result his uncle, who was like a father to him, was killed. He seems under an obligation to use his powers responsibly and unselfishly. So he puts up with J. J.' abuses in order to get SOME sort of money from his webslinging. . . .
Now the comic book history and the film history of MJ and Spidey DIFFERS. But in the first movie MJ and Peter knew each other a LOOOOOONNNNNNGGGGG time and the whole romance between them is one rooted in teenage pimply sensual awakenings, and the whole success of their romance is that Marvel bone they throw Peter now and then. . . the nerd with the heart and the willingness to stick to responsibility and duty gets an important perk! Gave hope to many of us nerds.
As for the Doc Ock evil transformation: man, it's all about the sentient tentacles, don't you know? Doesn't that explain it clearly? The artificial inteligence of the metal tentacles took over his brain after the accident with the energy device. It's something no comic book reader would ever doubt would happen!
I liked this film better than The Terminal, which I thought was lighter weight and a bit more fabricated, slick if you will.