Hey, I'm married, I scored myself with real honesty, and I don't look like a slob. I don't primp and pluck and shave other than my face though, and I put some spray on my hair to keep it in place because it is rebellious and rude at heart.
I've always been a polite and empathetic person and have many women friends and the best mate possible for me.
I present a good appearance, but reading Krishnamurti about a decade ago made me realize that worrying about one's appearance with real weight simply contributes to your living to others' expectations, which I wanted to free myself from. I check myself in the morning and when washing my hands in the restroom at work may look again and that does it for me.