Frequently I am asked "How do I/we make it to the next level".
The answer never pleases.
If you have a local following and want to move on you need to create a following at the next level. You must know there are 25 groups wanting the gig you dream of. If this means moving to a "larger market", you have to do that. No NYC clubowner is going to hire you 'cause you are the biggest thing in Cedar Rapids. You have to pay your dues at every step of the way.
Most people choose to spend time/money with family and other obligations but those making the move, move on. It is as simple as that.
Once again, Chuck is the turd in the punchbowl.