Well, I'd count your post on the size of adding value, personally. Thanks, davef, and keep posting to this thread - I always appreciate more people being in on this conversation!!!
Glad to hear about your stepmom. It's especially gratifying to me to hear about positive "cross-racial" stuff in reference to one's parents. In so many cases, one seems to often hear about just the opposite - about people who's parents are so deeply stuck in their own racism.
The parents of a good friend of mine are good examples... I don't think they are particularly 'overtly' racist ever, but they definitely have some "classist" beliefs which they tend to generalize along racial lines. (That's not very clear, I know, but I think you know what I'm getting at.) I guess I mean to say that they tend to lump most Black people in with all the people (reguardless of race) that they see as not having much of a work ethic. I don't think they look down on Black people specifically, but they do tend to be a more skeptical of Black people when it comes to their motives and values in life, until proven otherwise. And they're much less likely to give a Black person the benefit of the doubt, before making an early judgement about them.