I met my wife at a wedding gig way up in northern Michigan. She was a bride's maid. The minute she walked in, the entire room disappeared. I could not take my eyes off her. On the break she came and introduced herself to me. After the gig, I mustered up enough courage to give her my phone number and tell her that I wanted to take her out to dinner. I had no idea where she lived; she could've lived up north. But I wanted to see her again anyway. Luckily she lived in Lansing like me! We married a year (to the day we met) later. It's been 5 years as of yesterday (Sept. 15th). I'm proud to announce that we have a second baby on the way (Zora, our first, is three years old now! Can you believe it?)
One thing I will say: I was always very shy and unsure around women. All through high school and college I had some self-confidence issues. I lived in Ann Arbor for almost 2 years and about two weeks before I moved back to Lansing I finally just had enough. I decided that I was tired of being shy and I was going to be outgoing with women, confident in myself, and that I was a good catch!
During the next two weeks I had two ex-girlfriends try to get back with me (no thanks), another girl trying to get with me (she was nice, but not my type) and then, just as I moved back to Lansing, I met my wife.
You got to love yourself before you can be loved, I guess that's what I'm trying to say. You have to be secure in your own skin, you know? It took me awhile to figure that out.