I saw the quartet in Des Moines (forget if I was in high school or a freshman in college) and after the concert I spoke with the group members. Wound up at the Fort Des Moines Hotel with the band at a "reception" held for them - you know the "society" types fawning. After a few courtesy "hellos" the band made an early exit and they took me along. Morello, Desmond and Wright eventually went to their rooms but Brubeck said "I'm hungry, how about you". Don't remember my answer but we wound up in the hotel restaurant and he ordered steak dinners for the two of us. The kitchen was closed but they made an exception for him, but we sat at a counter to eat. I can still see him next to me, cutting his steak. I have no memory of the conversation(s), but remember the kindness.
Stuff like this means a bunch.