I understand what Kevin is saying completely. I was a caregiver for my parents over two years and was retired and living a five minute walk away (after moving from my own life of 32 years 1400 miles away to do so). It was a full time job with overtime (no pay) and took a toll on me. Eventually my remaining parent needed to be in assisted living due to more medically focused care than I was trained to provide--and luckily he thrived there, even returned to his ministry part-time with vigor, and spent seven great years there (til Covid came along, another story, to dampen his final two).
As the eldest and retired I was able to do a lot for them at a critical time. But if I were still in the working world. . . I'm certain my parents would have been in an assisted living facility sooner, and my poor mother, crippled mentally by dementia, would have been far less comfortable than in her own home to the end as with my help she was able to be.