dave9199

Going through a divorce, decided to move near my brother who lives in Durham. Lots o' stress, but I'm looking forward to it also...and scared as shit. I'll be running right into the hurricane coming up from Florida. I've been trying to find a job but haven't had any luck. I work in digital printing and have come close, but positions didn't materialize. I'm gonna try to catch up with ...impossible, haven't seen him since Providence late 2002. Anyway, if anyone has any lead for a job or just back-patting words, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

I agree with your assessment. It's very life affirming in a weird way if you choose to believe it's about someone (possibly Smith) who has/had cancer. There is a 2cd live album in between Glasgow Sunday & Glasgow Monday called Newcastle Monday (I think) I stopped buying the studio albums because I don't derive any enjoyment from them, but the live ones are very interesting. I'll keep buying those. He has released a dvd of Glasgow Sunday also. It's interesting just to watch a guy who, to his fans, is such a mystery. Makes you realize, he's just a regular guy.

I'm surprised no one has posted anything here. The only reggae I own is Marley & I don't listen to it all that much, but enjoy it when I do. I had just been listening to Kaya & Survival when this thread popped up. I had thought about buying a book on him when I was buying his cds but never did, so this your posts are interesting reading. For some reason, Kaya is a favorite of mine. I think because it's just an album of good songs and not overly political, though I like that stuff too.

Has anyone really been that anxious for an 'On The Corner' box set? I own 'On The Corner' because it's Miles and I'm "supposed" to, but can't imagine sitting through 5-7 hours of it, and paying to do so. Yet, if/when the box set appears, I'll wait and get it from yourmusic.com because it's Miles and I'm "supposed" to. I'm glad he retired for awhile in '75 - gives me a natural jumping off point in his discography, so that I don't have to feel compelled to own the 80's stuff. You are aware that you are the only one "making" yourself by anything, right?

They'll reissue all this for the upteenth time, but stop all work on the box sets of On The Cornor & Get Up With It. Go figure.

The photographers name is the same as my dad. His name is Robert Parent, but the photographer and my name are not one in the same. He grew up in Massachusetts also, but in the Worcester area though he did go to Berkley in the late 50's - early 60's. Played trumpet though was a frustrated drummer. It's ironic as drums were what I picked up on at age 8 or so from my dad's jazz records though I didn't start listening to jazz until late 2001.

I wouldn't order a copy of Pluto through Tower.

Pluto is going OOP.

I read Septemeber but can't remember where. It was probably in another thread on this board.

The point is not twisting the knife, the point is both sides knowing clearly why this is going on. If both sides aren't clear, one or both will take these issues into their next relationship. Not wanting to make it worse is a moot point. It gets worse if there is any uncertainty among either person.

Have you asked her why?

I think I might like a funny death, not painful, just funny to the people who know me. I don't know what an example might be though.

I heard on NPR this morning about a plane that crashed (I forget where). What was the plane carrying? Skydivers.

I am going through a divorce also. My wife & I have a good relationship, the problem was she wanted a kid and I flip-flopped for 6-8 years. The only thing she could count on was that I would change my mind. I'm from a divorced home (I was 4 when it happened) and though it was the best for my parents, it colored my view on kids and I realized I've never thought about my life and saw kids at any time. My wife started to say, on occasion, that she was glad we didn't have kids at the moment (this is about 1-2 years ago) and I had never heard her say that before. What I think was happening was the same thing I was trying to do: cram a square peg in a round hole (absolutely no pun intended there, but it is funny). I think she was trying to make herself believe she might be o.k. with not having one and staying with me, whereas I was trying to believe I would be happy having one. About that time I thought: If we aren't going to have a kid, I'd like to get a vasectomy because if I don't have one with her, I'm not going to ever want to have one. Around November last year, I decided I did want to get a vasectomy. After talking about it, and she knows how & why I feel the way I do about kids, she said that if I wanted to do, then do it, BUT she didn't know how she was going to react to it. I understood, but didn't really know what would happen. I felt it was right for me, but wasn't sure it was right for us. I had it done in May and the marriage collasped within a month (Our 10th anniversary of being a couple was a week away at this point and we had passed our 8th as married). We talked about it a lot and in early June I asked if she felt that divorce might be the only option (this was the first time the word came up) and she said yes. I never wanted to get divorced and neither did she, but she was hurt & disappointed that I couldn't get past an emotional hurdle for her. I've done it before, but this one we didn't see eye to eye on. After a sad weekend she said she wasn't bitter or angry with me. She understands that my decision has nothing to do with her, just like her decision to have kids had nothing to do with me. It's a personal choice and we had to respect each others choice. I've felt guilty for years that if I didn't want one, I'm taking away a HUGE chunk of life from her. I never felt that was fair to her. This way, she now has the oppertunity to meet someone else who wants to have kids. She's fully aware that she might not find anyone and never have them, but we both feel it's only fair for her to have that chance. Here's the kicker: we're living together until Spetember. We went to Sedona, AZ in April and decided to move there. We started socking away money. All this happened and she is still going and I, still in moving mode decided to move to Durham, NC where my brother & his wife are (no kids there either). My wife & I are on good terms, still friends, but it gets awkward, frustrating at times on both sides, but we talk about things as they come up (actually, I need to talk about things before we split, she told me she wants to deal with it afterwards and by herself; another point of view we don't agree on, but it doesn't matter at this point). Actally this move is keeping my mind active. If I didn't have this plan, I would be a mess. We don't have any property or a house and we paid for the divorce forms so we'll just split the savings money & go our own ways. I've said to my father: I don't know why I was so fearful of getting divorced, mine's going great. I wish everybody's could be this way. The worst part is that my best friend pulled away and I had to adjust to that. I will miss her more than I've ever missed anyone, and yet, I'm still looking forward to meeting new people, falling in love & getting married again at some point in my life.

Kinda looks like The Big Dig in Boston.

I don't hace Works. What is different in the sound?

I really am enjoying We're Only In It For The Money. It's much more melodic than I thought Zappa would be (this is the first album I've heard by him). Some of the song structures remind me of the soundtrack to Jesus Christ Superstar. My brother had that album and there are still songs from that album I think are great: What's The Buzz, I Don't Know How To Love Him, Everything's Alright, King Herod's Song, Jesus Christ Superstar. Some favorites from Zappa'a album are: Who Needs The Peace Corps?, Concentration Moon (espicially the Gotta go bye-bye part), Mom & Dad, Absolutely Free, Flower Punk, Let's Make The Water Turn Black (in particular the piano run at the beginning), The Idiot Bastard Son, Take Your Clothes Off When You Dance, The Ugliest Part Of your Body (the lyrics threw me on this one, fantastic bit of lyric writing), & Mother People. That's about half the album.

How can you tell if you're listening to mono or stereo, aside from the cover telling you. What is it I should listen for to tell me? I could never figure it out. Weren't the first 4 Beatles cds released in mono when they came out in the 80's? I have those.

Chewy is Aric, right?

On Jazzmatazz it's in the 2006 & beyond part with the year 2005 after it. I guess we have to wait for 2005 to come around again. That sounds about right.

For anyone who's curious enough, here's a link to a song from a dvd of Jandek's first show in October 2004. Just watch the chords he plays.

I just heard We're Only In It... over the weekend. I was quite taken with how melodic the songs are and all in spite of the quirkiness that is Zappa. It's really good. I also heard Freak Out, but it didn't hit me as much as We're Only In It did. Also listened to Captain beefheart for the first time. That's pretty good also. Started with an easier one; Safe As Milk.

Jazzmatazz has an album listed with no title yet, but it says it's a show from 2003.

I forgot to mention one band I've heard about since living in CT. A friend's dad was the lead singer for a regional group called Teddy & The Pandas. They did one album. I don't know on what label.