Well... Jay, you seem like a pretty nice guy. However, I'll note this: that only one of the women I've dated has not liked jazz. Few of them knew anything about it or were interested in it before getting to know me. So I think that working on a way to communicate/share your interests with a prospective partner is a good thing.
You and I spoken through email before, so I know you have diverse scholastic interests that you seem to be applying to jazz (or v.v.). Surely you can meet a woman in the Bay Area who digs interesting music, scholarship, independence and YOU.