People who respond to stressful situations with short-term anger or indignation have a sense of control and optimism that lacks in those who respond with fear.
"These are the most exciting data I've ever collected," Carnegie Mellon psychologist Jennifer Lerner told a gathering of science writers here last month.
i'm glad jennifer is excited, but really, we've known this fact for some time now. in fact, it was a question on my psychologist licensing exam over ten years ago. truthfully, i probably incorporate assertiveness training in treating over half to two-thirds of my clients. people who adopt a predominantly passive style to coping with life's difficulties are less likely to get their needs met, and they are more prone to experience a range of stress-related emotional and physical problems. what's more, sooner or later these people are apt to get angry or aggressive when they "reach the boiling point." on the other hand, individuals who rely on aggressivess to deal with life are typically alone, in jail, or unhappy as they repeatedly abuse other people. i really believe the healthiest alternative in a great many modern day situations is to be assertive: communicating what you think and how you feel in a clear, direct, and non-threatening manner.
HAVE I MADE MYSELF CLEAR?!?!