sonnymax

You are as clueless about me and my therapeutic approaches as you are about the issues we've been discussing so far on this thread. Read (slowly) my last post and understand that I'm in the cognitive-behavioral/rational-reality therapy/solution-focused camp for a majority of my clinical cases. Citing John Rosemond, that bible-thumping political conservative who argues against research into childhood disorders, stating that good, old-fashioned parental discipline is all you need to cure whatever problem junior's got. As you said, that tells me exactly where you're coming from.

Me, defensive? Actually, blaming is a defensive behavior. Calling someone out on their defensive behavior, as I've done here, is something different. I don't blame anyone. It's nonproductive, encourages defensiveness, and makes it more difficult for individuals with influence to assume responsibility. Reading isn't the same thing as learning, obviously. I would have expected someone with all those years of "medical practice" to communicate in a more thoughtful and responsible manner. Labeling, overgeneralizing, and blaming hardly seem "professional". For what it's worth, I'll stack my 20+ years as a clinical psychologist, working with teenagers, parents, families, schools, courts, etc., against your professional experience, any day. That doesn't mean my ideas and opinions are necessarily better, correct, or definitive. But my views do have the benefit of education, training, and most importantly - actual clinical experience. I don't believe "bad parenting" is about leniency or permissiveness anymore than "good parenting" is about being strict. From my observations and working with parents and their kids, effective parenting has a lot to do with being clear, consistent, rational, and fair in teaching children about life and their place in it (including rights and responsibilities). Of course, it means saying "no" whenever it's appropriate, but it's much more than that. Even a young child can say "no", just ask any parent of a 2-year-old. I believe it's how you deal with situations after saying "no" (or "yes" for that matter) that is likely to have a more lasting influence on a child, or a person of any age for that matter. Horrible incidents like the one described in the OP naturally elicit strong emotional reactions and a tendency to label and blame individuals so we can assign guilt and lessen our personal discomfort. However, the seriousness of situations like this call for openness, understanding, and thoughtful, effective responses that help resolve the problems that contribute to such tragedies. These are my thoughts, anyway.

Sheer, utter nonsense. You blame one group (psychologists), then another (parents), and then another (children with self-esteem). It's obvious you have little understanding about the different factors that influence individual and group behavior. Please stop blaming and labeling and instead read, learn, and broaden your understanding.

The spokesperson for compassionate conservatism. If that's a humble opinion, I'd hate to see one he's proud of.

Perhaps your "review" would have been more appropriate if posted in the Live Shows forum. As it stands, you appear to be condemning an ensemble of talented artists based on a single performance, rather than sampling other live appearances as well as some of their recorded output. You're entitled to your opinion, of course, but I feel your conclusions are too sweeping given your limited experience with the Cookers.

This news is extremely difficult for me to hear. I've been listening to Eric Jackson for over 20 years, and Steve is a friend. I cannot see how I can continue to support WGBH financially in light of these changes.

ALERT!!! If you forgot to use your credit by the original expiration date of June 15, the offer has been extended to 11:59 p.m. PST on June 23.

I caught Walrath's first set and liked it very much. I also enjoyed the Jack Wilkins-Jimmy Bruno duo that performed earlier that night. If you plan to continue posting about your latest listening experience, perhaps this thread could be moved to the jazz podcast forum.

You folks know the drill. Enter code: MP3S4ALL and redeem your credit by 11:59 p.m. PST on June 15.

I especially like the story of "the missing dog food". Apparently, mice had gotten into the family dog's stash of dry food, and then proceeded to store their ill-gotten booty for safe keeping in the ventilation system of the caller's car. When she turned on her fan/AC, kibbles and bits spew forth from the vents, much to the delight of the dog. When I conduct couples therapy and I hear the words: "I need you to settle a disagreement between me and my spouse", I think of the many calls Tom & Ray received from people who were convinced that their partners were wrong, ill-informed, or just plain nuts. If only I could resolve arguments as quickly as they do and use words like "whacko" and "bo-o-o-o-gus" when appropriate. Sadly, it will be all over soon. Me? I'm still waiting for the third half of the hour.

Tom (left) and Ray Magliozzi have dished out advice on cars and other things since 1977. While driving with my dad yesterday, I was shocked and saddened to hear that Car Talk, NPR's long-running radio program featuring Click and Clack (aka Tom & Ray Magliozzi), will cease making new shows in September. "We've managed to avoid getting thrown off NPR for 25 years, giving tens of thousands of wrong answers and had a hell of a time every week talking to callers," Ray Magliozzi said. "The stuff in our archives still makes us laugh. So we figured, why keep slaving over a hot microphone?" The two men proved that public radio didn't have to be stuffy, said Doug Berman, executive producer of the show. "Car Talk" began as a local call-in show on Boston's BUR radio in 1977. It's now on 660 stations across the country, with some 3.3 million listeners a week. Berman said he knew the retirement was a possibility; Tom is 74. That didn't stop Ray, 63, from mocking him. "My brother has always been work-averse," he said. "Now, apparently, even the one hour a week is killing him." Ap story

The new website is a huge improvement. Too bad the content remains.

...as in "From out of nowhere came this saxophone".

Sounds like a great combination. Hope the car runs as well as the jazz swings!

VISION FESTIVAL 17 At Roulette, 509 Atlantic Avenue, Brooklyn (except Tuesday After Hours and Friday Afternoon Free Show) Monday June 11th 6:00PM - 7:00PM - Opening Invocation 2012 Patricia Nicholson - words and movement
, Fay Victor, Kyoko Kitamura - vocals, 
William Parker - bass
, Hamid Drake, Gerald Cleaver - drums 7:00PM - 8:00PM - Kneebody / MoNoMe Adam Benjamin - keyboards, Ben Wendel - sax Kaveh Rastegar, Nate Wood - bass, Shane Endsley - trumpet 8:00PM - 9:00PM - Dunmall / Shipp / Morris / Cleaver Paul Dunmall – reed, 
Matthew Shipp – piano, 
Joe Morris – bass, 
Gerald Cleaver - drums 9:00PM - 10:00PM - Sharp / Morris Tracie Morris - poet, 
Elliott Sharp - guitar 10:00PM - 11:00PM - Mark Dresser Quintet Rudresh Mahanthappa - alto sax
, Mark Dresser – bass
, Michael Dessen – trombone
, Denman Maroney – piano, 
Michael Sarin - drums Tuesday June 12th AUM Fidelity 15th Anniversary Celebration 7:00PM - 8:00PM - Eri Yamamoto / Solo Piano 8:00PM - 9:00PM - Farmers by Nature Craig Taborn - piano, William Parker - bass, Gerald Cleaver - drums 9:00PM - 10:00PM - Darius Jones Quartet Darius Jones - alto saxophone, 
Matt Mitchell - piano, 
Trevor Dunn – bass, 
Ches Smith - drums 10:00PM - 11:00PM - William Parker / In Order To Survive Cooper-Moore - piano
, Lewis Barnes - trumpet, 
Rob Brown - alto saxophone, 
William Parker - bass & compositions
, Hamid Drake - drums AFTER HOURS at Clemente Soto Velez 107 Suffolk St. Manhattan 12:00AM - 1:00AM - Sound Band / led by Jemeel Moondoc Zak Sherzad – sax, didgeridoo, 
Ras Moshe – sax, flute, 
Matt Lavelle - alto clarinet, trumpet, 
David Moss, Max Johnson – bass, 
Nicole Federici – viola, 
Tom Zlabinger – trombone, guitar, 
Tor Snyder – guitar, harmonica, 
Tiffany Chang - drums Wednesday June 13th Joe McPhee - A LifeTime of Achievement 7:00PM - 8:30PM - Joe McPhee / ANGELS, DEVILS AND HAINTS II (Playing in THE GARDENS OF HARLEM - a tribute to Clifford Thornton) 
4 basses - Dominic Duval, Michael Bisio, Hilliard Greene, William Parker
 4 horns - Steve Swell, Roy Campbell, Joe Giardullo, Joe McPhee
 2 percussionist - Warren Smith, Jay Rosen Rosie Hertlein
 - violin 8:30PM - 9:30PM - Sonny Simmons Ensemble Sonny Simmons - alto sax, english horn, 
William Parker - bass
, Thomas Bellier - electric guitar, 
Warren Smith - drums 9:30PM - 10:00PM - Jason Jordan / KnocKnock Dance Co. music - Joe McPhee Dancers - So Young An, Darion Smith, Misei Daimaru, Jason Jordan 10:00PM - 11:00PM - The Thing + Joe McPhee Joe McPhee - sax & trumpet
, Mats Gustaffson - tenor & baritone
 saxophone, Ingebrigt Haker Flaten - bass, 
Paal Nilssen-Love - drums Thursday June 14th 5:00PM - 7:00PM - Panel - Free Jazz / Free Music - Why Then / Why Now moderator Scott Currie Dave Burrell, Hamiet Bluiett, Wadada Leo Smith, Elliott Sharp, Howard Mandel 7:00PM - 8:30PM - ETERNAL UNITY Dave Burrell - piano, 
Sabir Mateen - reeds
, William Parker - bass, 
William Hooker - drums 8:30PM - 9:30PM - Dangerous Women / Moving Sound Patricia Nicholson - dance/words, 
Connie Crothers - piano 9:30PM - 10:30PM - Ivo Perelman Trio Whit Dickey - drums
, Ivo Perelman - sax, 
Michael Bisio - bass 10:30PM - 11:30PM - Hamid Drake Ensemble Jeff Parker – guitar
, Jeb Bishop - trombone
, Pasquale Mira - vibes
, Joshua Abrams – bass, 
Hamid Drake - drums Friday June 15th 3:30PM - 4:30PM - POETS SPEAK / TRIBES GATHERING at Rutgers Housing / Basketball Court, 200 Madison Street near Pike Peace Poets /Luke Nephew, Frank Lopez, Emanuel Candelario, Frantz Jerome
 Tribes Poets /Edwin Torres, Latasha Diggs, Sheila Maldonado 4:30PM - 5:00PM - Music Is Mine Youth from 'Music Is Mine' directed by Jean Carla Rodea 
Guest Stars: William Parker bass,reeds
, Cooper-Moore - percussion, diddley bow, 
Hamid Drake - drums 5:00PM - 6:00PM - The Mystery Ensemble Kidd Jordan - sax
, Jean Carla Rodea - vocals, 
William Parker - bass
, Cooper-Moore - didleybow, 
Hamid Drake - drums At Roulette 7:00PM - 8:00PM - Sheila Jordan & Jay Clayton / Bebop to Freebop Jack Wilkins – guitar, 
Cameron Brown - bass 8:00PM - 8:30PM - Yoshiko Chuma - Intersections Yoshiko Chuma - Dance, Akihito Obama - shakuhachi, Roy Campbell - trumpet 8:30PM - 9:30PM - Roy Campbell / Ehran Elisha Roy Campbell - trumpet, 
Ehran Elisha - drums 9:30PM - 10:30PM - Henry Grimes / Wadada Leo Smith Henry Grimes – bass, violin, 
Wadada Leo Smith - trumpet 10:30PM - 11:30PM - Pheeroan akLaff / Dear Freedom Suite Jun Miyake - saxophones, flutes, 
Angelica Sanchez - keyboards, voice, 
Santi Debriano - bass violin, electric guitar, 
Pheeroan akLaff - percussion, mixed media
, Special Guest: Amiri Baraka - words Saturday June 16th 3:00PM - 5:00PM - The Next Generation - T.I.M.E. Tom Zlabinger, York College Creative Ensemble
, Nicole Federici, Sonic Smithy, 
Claire Daly, Litchfield Jazz Combo Jeff Lederer, Brooklyn Frontiers High School Kidd Jordan leads all 50 students in Albert Ayler's Universal Indians 
 7:00PM - 7:30PM - OH, Solo Rachel Bernsen – Dance 7:30PM - 8:30PM - Steve Swell Quintet Steve Swell - trombone, 
Rob Brown - alto
 sax, Chris Forbes - piano, 
Hill Greene - bass, 
Michael T.A. Thompson - drums 8:30PM - 9:30PM - PREMIERE Joelle Leandre - bass
, Nicole Mitchell - flute
, Thomas Buckner - voice 9:30PM - 10:30PM - TRIO 3 Reggie Workman – bass, 
Andrew Cyrille – drums, 
Oliver Lake - sax 10:30PM - 11:30PM - Jason Kao Hwang / BURNING BRIDGE Jason Hwang – violin, 
Taylor Ho Bynum - cornet, flugelhorn, 
Ken Filiano - string bass
, Andrew Drury - drum set
, Wang Guowei – erhu
, Sun Li – pipa
, Steve Swell - trombone Sunday June 17th - Closing Night 4:00PM - 6:00PM - Panel - Freedom for Sale (Poets & Prophets) Mike Burke moderator (producer Democracy Now) Amiri Baraka (author, activist), Ewuare X Osayande (author, activist) George Shulman (author, educator) Luke Nephew, (poet ,activist) Patricia Parker (organizer, poet, dancer) 6:00PM - 7:00PM - Ingrid Laubrock / ANTI-HOUSE Ingrid Laubrock – saxophone, 
Mary Halvorson – guitar, 
Kris Davis – piano
, John Hebert – bass
, Tom Rainey - drums 7:00PM - 8:00PM - BURNT SUGAR the ARKESTRA CHAMBER / Holy Ghost And Fire Greg "Ionman" Tate - conduction, guitar, laptop, 
Lisala, Abby Dobson - vocals, 
Mikel Banks - vocals, conduction, freak-a-phone
, Lewis "Flip" Barnes Jr. – trumpet, 
Micah Gaugh - alto sax, 
V. Jeffery Smith, Avram Fefer - tenor sax, 
"Moist" Paula Henderson - bari sax
, Dave "Smoota" Smith - trombone, 
Andre Lassalle, Ben Tyree - guitar
, Bruce Mack - vocals/keyboards, Jason DiMatteo - acoustic bass
, Jared Michael Nickerson - electric bass, 
LaFrae Sci - drums 8:00PM - 8:30PM - Jason Jordan / Breaking 8:30PM - 9:30PM - Rob Brown / Daniel Levin Rob Brown - alto sax
, Daniel Levin - cello 9:30PM - 10:30PM - Kidd Jordan Quintet Kidd Jordan - alto, 
Charles Gayle - tenor, piano
, J.D. Parron - sax, 
William Parker - bass
, Hamid Drake - drums

Bring back in-car record players, then we'll talk.

Without quotation marks or credits, this reads like it's something you yourself wrote. Since it's the first two paragraphs of Howard Mandel's article, word for word, I think you should be clear and credit the author.

Lou Donaldson's dog:

This is the one I want to find:

So this woman gets "a zillion dollars" while you're still trying to raise funds for your latest recording. Gee, life isn't fair. That doesn't make her any less talented, and it certainly doesn't make her "extremely unfunny". I'll support your musical efforts, Alan, but I won't attend your pity party.

No, what the NFL cannot afford is to continue covering up what they knew about head trauma injuries and their failure to act on that information, all for the sake of business and profits.

Strange that you think of Don's viability in terms of his capacity to score hit records. Better to look at the quality of the music he created (employing the likes of Marcus Belgrave, John Patitucci, and Mel Torme over several albums), as well as his contributions to other people's music as a producer.

Where do you get a buck and a half? It's $5 for the first item, which isn't bad at all.

Cannonball Adderley Them Dirty Blues (1960) And the Poll Winners (1960) Cannonball' Bossa Nova (1962) Somethin' Else (1963) Chet Baker Chet Baker Sings (1954) Chet Baker Big Band (1954) Chet Baker and Crew (1956) The Most Important Jazz Album of 1964/1965 Art Blakey Moanin' (1958) Africaine (1959) Buhaina's Delight (1961) The African Beat (1962) Dexter Gordon Doin'Alright (1961) Dexter Calling (1961) Go! (1962) Our Man in Paris (1963 Herbie Hancock My Point of View (1963) Empyrean Isles (1964) Maiden Voyage (1965) Speak Like a Child (1968) Joe Henderson Page One (1963) Our Thing (1963) In 'n Out (1964) Mode for Joe (1966) Wayne Shorter Night Dreamer (1964) Juju (1964) Speak No Evil (1964) Adam's Apple (1966) Bobby McFerrin Spontaneous Inventions (1985) Simple Pleasures (1988) Bang Zoom (1996) Beyond Words (2002) Dianne Reeves Quiet After the Storm (1994) That Day (1997) Bridges (1999) The Calling (2001) Cassandra Wilson Blue Light Till Dawn (1993) New Moon Daughter (1995) Travelling Miles (1999) Belly of the Sun (2002)