I'm with you 100% on this point, Mark. I miss my wife every day.
I can't help but think I missed some clues (aka "code words") along the way that might have helped to save my marriage. I always preferred the direct approach to communication, you know, "tell me what's on your mind and please don't make me guess" but it seems that's not the way it works. I always tried to be sensitive/considerate to what she was thinking/feeling, but I obviously failed in this miserably. I put a lot into making that relationship work, and the way it disintegrated so quickly has left me questioning whether I have the ablilty to be in a relationship at all.